Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Control



Having to control people and situations can be a very tiring place. Wanting and always needing to be right is exhausting, the only person who appreciates it is you-it leaves one very lonely. I am learning to give up control to live by the motto that it is better to be happy than right. The trick is to do so and not be walked on. It is a paradox that in surrender one finds true strength. By taking time to pause, be still, to do nothing is action in itself. In that quiet place there is often a simple answer. As hard as it may be I can only look at myself and study myself- I only have control of how I act and respond. Do I want to be happy or right?

9 comments:

  1. Do I sense a theme among the two sisters? It's so wonderful to give up control - frees up so much energy. I tried it years ago and I'm never going back!! Be happy!!! Love, Silke

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  2. Life is easier if you relinquish control..but it depends if you can cope with the outcome. A tricky one. I am a control freak..but learning!

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  3. I think to be happy you need to have some sort of control ... not control freak but you need to have as much as to stand up for yourself etc.

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  4. Be happy!
    (regarding being happy or right,sometimes it does make one happy to be right though).
    Thanks for your nice comments about my rug Lorrie.
    hugs........

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  5. Hi Lorrie! Thanks for your comment on my blog ... just FYI, celery root is also called celeriac and here you can find more about it: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Celeriac. Growing up in Germany, that's the only celery we knew. Now Germans also sometimes cook with the "regular" celery, the celery stalks. Hugs, Silke

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  6. You are right, the trick is not to get walked on. I guess that is where balance comes in. I think I just found my word for this year - balance! Wishing you a happy and balanced day!

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  7. Lorrie, your posts are chocked full of insight. I vote to be happy is much better than being right. It took me awhile to learn this lesson.

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  8. ahhhhh....and the humility that comes along with letting someone else do their thing...nope...i am not right most of the time...glad i have the tools to help me on my journey....and ofcourse... a friend like you
    much love

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